The exercise below will help you to determine whether the goals you’ve selected to work on in 2018 are the right ones and, if they are, determine their priority for action.
Yes, it is a scoring exercise – but it’s so much more than a straight left-brained ‘pros and cons’ evaluation. This scoring process helps you gain insight into whether the goal(s) you’ve selected for 2018 will TRULY make a difference in your life as opposed to what you THINK will improve your life.
1. First take out your list of goals for 2018 or, if they’re just in your head, write them down on a sheet of paper.
2. Take each goal and using the following categories ask yourself, “Will achieving this goal improve my satisfaction in this area?”
- Relationships with family and friends
- Relationship with spouse/partner
- Personal growth
- Contribution and spiritual
- Health and well-bring
- Recreation, hobbies, fun
3. For each goal on your list, give a point for EACH category that is improved. Tip: ½ points can be allocated if appropriate.
4. Keep going until each goal has been scored.
5. Now review which goals get the highest and lowest scores. What do you notice? What have you learned about yourself? How do you feel after doing this exercise? How does this exercise affect the priority you place on your goals?
[NB. you can add to or delete from this list of categories to create a list that sits comfortably with you]
Two of the goals on a person’s list are 1) Buy a Porsche and 2) Be home each weeknight in time to spend time with my children. The person then works through the process and answers as follows:
1) Porsche: Will it improve my Finances? No. Will it improve my relationships with family and friends? Probably not (score ½). Will it improve my Career? Unlikely. Will it improve my Fun? Yes (score 1). And so on until, let’s say they get a score of 1½ out of a possible 9.
2) Be home each weeknight in time to spend time with my children: Will it improve my Finances? No. Will it improve my relationships with family and friends? With my kids most definitely (score 1) . Will it improve my relationships with my spouse/partner? Yes (score 1). Will it improve my Career? No impact. Will it improve my Fun? Yes (score 1). Will it improve my Health and Well-bring? Yes (score 1). So let’s say the person gets a score of 5½ out of 9.
And there it is in Black and White. Porsche 1½, and Being home each weeknight in time to spend time with my children 5½. NOW the person can make an informed choice as to whether Buy a Porsche should be a goal and if so, on what goal they choose to prioritise and work on first.
I have used this exercise many times with clients and they have always learned something about themselves and what really matters, because it helps people to understand and set goals that align with their emotional and physical needs as opposed to goals that are driven by desire, or trying to please or impress.
I trust you’ll find this exercise valuable. Remember goal setting is all about making MEANINGFUL change in our lives.
If you’d like help with setting meaningful goals that truly align with your needs, values and belief systems please feel free to get in touch with me via the contact page or phone – 021 056 8389.