Question: What enables some people to thrive in the face of adversity while others buckle under the overwhelming pressure?
What is resilience?
“Resilience is more than just coping; that’s keeping your head above water. Being resilient means being able to walk out of the water.”
Resilience as a concept first appeared in the late l990s with the release of Paul C. Stoltz’s 1997 book Adversity Quotient: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities (John Wiley & Sons). Playing off of psychologist and author Daniel Goleman’s concept of emotional intelligence, Stoltz, a corporate consultant, theorized that a person’s success in the world is based largely on their ability to cope with adversity.
The power of the “three Cs”
Following a 12 year study into resilience, psychologists Salvatore Maddi and Suzanne Kobasa identified three qualities that all resilient people share – these are referred to as the ‘three Cs of hardiness':
2. a sense of control over your life, and
3. an enthusiasm for challenge.
Maddi describes each C as follows:
- Commitment involves the belief that no matter how bad things get, it is important to stay involved with whatever is happening, rather than sink into detachment and alienation.
- Control leads you to believe that no matter how bad things get, you need to keep trying to turn the events from potential disasters into growth opportunities. You do not allow yourself to sink into powerlessness and passivity.
- Challenge - you accept that life is, by its very nature challenging. You do not think you are entitled to a life of easy comfort and security. You believe you can learn from failures as well as successes. You create opportunities to grow in wisdom and capability.
Another researcher, Al Siebert, PhD, looked at resilience from a different angle, he studied people who had weathered significant traumas and identified what he calls the “the survivor personality.” Siebert found that the most successful survivors tended to have curious, playful, adaptive personality traits. They also shared attributes of persistence, optimism, flexibility, and self-confidence.
The Benefits of Being Resilient
>Researchers have found that people who score high on tests of resilience or hardiness are:
more able to cope with change
better able to cope with stress
sick less often
less prone to disease
How do you build resilience?
Richard H. Price, an organizational psychologist at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research and psychology department, says people build resiliency based on life experiences, through encounters with what he calls “just-manageable” difficulties.
“People can be overwhelmed when faced with impossible adversity,” Price says. “That does not improve their resilience. But if they are confronted with a set of challenging experiences over time that are just manageable, they can build a set of coping skills.”
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